Dear Intern Wife…

July 1st (or 2nd in this case) is the beginning of the medical year. It is when all med students, interns, residents, and fellows start their brand new year. And for some, this is the very beginning of the journey.


Dear Intern Wife,

Today is a big day, an exciting day! Not just for your husband, but for you too!

You are embarking on a new chapter that is part of your unique story. This chapter will bring you challenges, it will bring you joy, it will teach you lessons, it will test you, and it will strengthen you.

You may be in the same city that you lived in during medical school. You might have moved away from family or closer to family. Maybe you moved across the country to a brand new city where you don’t know a soul.

But where ever you are, know that you are not alone.

There will be times that you feel alone because

  • friends and family don’t understand your situation
  • your husband isn’t around as much as you’d like
  • you don’t have any friends in this new town
  • you don’t want to ask for help or
  • you don’t know who to ask for help
  • well…you don’t know why, but you just feel lonely

but know that there are many other women who have traveled down this road.

And they know.

I know.


And sometimes that’s all you need…a connection with someone else who knows what you are going through.

You will make it through.

And you will be better because of it.

Your husband is a lucky guy to have such a wonderful lady who supports him and is walking alongside him through this next chapter.

I am excited for you.

And please don’t ever forget…you are so much stronger than you think you are.

love & blessings & virtual {{{hugs}}},


P.S. It’s one thing to know the fact that other women have gone through this too, but if you can’t connect with them, then it still feels pretty lonely. I know this may sound weird (if you don’t know me), but if ever you need someone to talk to,  need some encouragement,  someone to vent to or cry to, please please send me an email, for reals….I’m not kidding… and there is also a great group on Facebook you should join.

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6 Responses to Dear Intern Wife…

  1. Narayanah says:

    Thank you for this. I have been going so crazy with hurt and anger, not gonna lie, about how difficult this is. We just moved to a new state I have no friends and a newborn so it makes it even harder bc she doesn’t know him, sometimes I don’t think I know him anymore. Any-who…it’s hard and lonely. So. Thank you

  2. Diana says:

    Just subscribed to your blog and really looking forward to exploring your posts further! My husband is an orthopedic surgery intern in chicago and we have a six week old son. Fortunately, we have family and friends close but making the adjustment to parenthood is certainly a challenge when my hubby is working so much. I will be reading your blog for inspiration when I am feeling like friends and family don’t completely understand our situation! Thank you for sharing your experiences!

  3. Erin says:


    Thank you for posting this. I am an intern wife…siting at home at 10:23pm on a Saturday waiting for my husband to get off call. We are in a new city and state and three months in to this crazy blessing-thing of starting life here I still have no friends. I am not working yet and am trying to figure out what life is supposed to be like now. We have a good church here but the process has been slow. People think I am literally a different person when I show up one week with a husband versus another week(s) when I show up without one! And here I am, on a Saturday night, me and my dog, mindlessly googling doctor’s wife blogs in the hopes that maybe somebody else thought all this was hard too…? Your post made me cry, but in a good way.

    Thank you for sharing your experiences!


  4. victoria says:

    what a wonderful and encouraging post. i just found your blog via instagram. we’re all settled in nashville. let’s get together!

    xo victoria

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